The trick, of course, is to be aware of when you are attached. Without this awareness, you are seduced into believing that there is one way for things to be. If things are not that way, you suffer. On the other hand, if things are the way you believe, you will likely miss opportunities and possibilities for new and better ways because you are so attached to this one way of seeing.
When you forget that your thoughts are not real just because you think them, you live under the illusion that there is but one way for things to be - the way you are currently thinking. As soon as your awareness shifts, and your attachment drops, the space is created for myriad possibilities to emerge from your inner wisdom.
As an avid tennis player, I struggled for nearly three decades with a mediocre two-handed backhand. I took countless lessons, practiced and practiced but never had a real breakthrough. My overall game was limited as a result. At least until my attachment to the two-handed style eroded. One day as I was feeding a ball back to my opponent with a one-handed backhand, I suddenly realized there was an option I had never considered. Once I was no longer attached to playing with two hands, I was able to see a clear alternative that had somehow escaped me for 26 years. Within a year or two, I had developed a solid, reliable one-handed backhand that continues to improve.
Up until recently I had been attached to the idea that I could not have a job and build a successful business at the same time. My attachment to this thought was so strong that I was unwilling to even consider an alternative.