In an emotional Virginia huddle, one of the players shouted out to his comrades, "I'd rather be in THIS huddle than the other one!" When I heard about this in the postgame remarks, I absolutely loved the subtle power of this sentiment beyond the obvious "we are in this together" rallying cry.
For me, the real power in this statement is that it embraces reality. When you argue with reality, you suffer. When you deny reality, you cannot see clearly. After all, what is -- IS. Your unwillingness to accept reality, keeps you stuck. Your lamenting that things should be different disempowers you.
Accepting reality does not mean you don’t do anything to change it. When you clearly see your current circumstances for what they are, you are best-equipped to create change. Without delusions, you see what needs to be done, and you just do it no matter how uncomfortable or difficult it may be.
If the Virginia players had wished they were ahead by 2 instead of behind, they would have felt sorry for themselves. Their self-pity would have led to distracting thoughts of what could have or should have been. All of those thoughts would have disconnected them from their power and interfered with their focus. By fully embracing their situation, they had no such distraction. The double team worked. The regained possession and scored a quick goal. With just under 2 minutes remaining, they forced another turnover and scored in transition to tie the game. In overtime, Virginia’s defense stepped up again, CREATING another turnover. Seconds later, they scored the game-winning goal.
- Where in your life are you denying reality?
- What “huddle” are you currently wishing you were NOT in?
- What would change if you fully embraced “your huddle” instead?
- What about your life do you think should be different?
- How would your experience change if you could no longer have the thought that it should be different?